What a healthy relationship should look like
Respect – Listening, being non-judgemental, understanding and valuing your opinions.
Trust – respecting your right to your own opinions, friends and activities, believing in you.
Support – supporting you in your goals and ambitions, believing in you.
Safety – respecting your personal space, non-threatening behaviour, non-manipulative or intimidating behaviour.
Honesty – clear, open and truthful communication, being able to say if you’re feeling scared or insecure.
Responsibility – acknowledging one’s behaviours and attitudes, asking not expecting, making decisions together.
Freedom – being able to live your life free from violence, intimidation or threatening behaviour.
Negotiation & Compromise – accepting that there isn’t always a ‘right’ way to do things, accepting change, willingness to see the other side.
What an unhealthy relationship looks like
POWER & CONTROL
Using intimidation – making you afraid by using looks, actions and gestures, threatening and harassing phone calls/text messages, using their physical presence to scare you.
Using isolation – controlling what you do, who you talk to and where you go, stopping you from seeing your friends and family; your mates don’t like hanging around with both of you.
Blaming, denying & minimising – denying any abuse or problems, making light of the abuse, saying it was nothing, blaming you for the abuse, blaming use of drugs or alcohol for the abuse.
Sexual abuse – forcing or pressurising you to do sexual things you don’t want to, constantly putting down or criticising your body.
Emotional abuse – constantly putting you down and criticising you, calling you names, dictating and controlling what you wear, making you feel bad about yourself, playing mind games, humiliating you, making you feel guilty.
Using threats – making threats to hurt you, threatening to hurt themselves if you dump them, making threats to hurt or kill your pets, threatening to destroy your things, or to spread rumours about you.
Physical abuse – hitting you, punching you, kicking you, pushing you around, blocking your way, locking you in.
Financial abuse – making you feel guilty or like you owe them for things they have brought you, stopping you from getting work, making you depend on them for money, taking your money.
The hideout website has a great questionnaire you can do if you think you are in a abusive relationship follow the link below to complete this